He
does not want to take me to altar
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| Advisor: ADA DIKE |
I have been dating my boyfriend for two years
and I moved into his apartment about ten months ago.
What
baffles me is that he has been adamant in taking me to the altar.
He
told me that he does not believe in ceremonial wedding. I work in an oil
company while he works in a telecommunication company. So we have money that
would be enough to organize a society wedding.
Reluctantly,
I agreed with him and asked him to go and pay my dowry but he keeps dragging
feet.
I have
been avoiding buying electronics and expensive things to furnish our homes since
I don’t know whether he has an ulterior motive for his attitude towards
marrying me.
Already,
people are calling me his wife and it is negatively affecting my psyche since I
am still bearing my maiden name. Should I pack out of his house?
Mabel
Dear
Mabel,
You alone can decide
whether or not you will continue with that relationship. There are a lot
couples who are live-in-lovers in our society because their dowries have not been
paid.
Some women died and their husbands were asked
to go to their villages and pay their dowries before they would be buried
without which their children would be taken from them.
Apply any strategy at
your disposal and ensure that he pays your dowry. Your case is just like the
statements one of my lecturers used to make while we were in school. He said
that, “Year one students’ names were written with chalk which can easily be
wiped off.” Though, married couples
divorce, it will not be nice for him to walk up to you one day and tell you how
incompatible two of you are. He may also bring a lady and introduce her to you
as his fiancée so the early you secure your relationship the better. Convince
him to pay your dowry and go with you to marriage registry to seal your
relationship if you truly love him.
Food for thought
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