When the second trimester of Sophia’s pregnancy was closing, she tortuously announced to me that she was in the family way.My mind was bemused,and so was my soul confused. But I quickly realized that nothing more could be done to alter my status as a father-to-be. I knew that i was not ready to be a dad. Still, I adjusted myself to the realities of my new situation and the consequences of my past personal indiscretions.Birth of Imade Adeleke
I made the determination that I was going to be a good dad. I
also reasoned that my blunder is not enough pretext to make me a husband. I was
just 21. And so I decided to be a responsible dad without being husband to the
mother of my baby. I never was in love with Sophia neither was marriage ever in
the offing.
I own my property at Lekki and had allowed Sophia to stay in
the house because she claimed that she knew nobody in Lagos and that her father
was deceasedwhilst her mother was resident in Abuja. For real, Sophia was a
drifter without a dime, education nor career. My compassion, ignorance, naivety
and poor judgment had combined to make me a victim to a much older lady with
super cunning sense that was mixed with a vicious and diabolical nature. I
stand accused but calmly accepted my responsibility for the sad misadventure
that caused me to be a seat-mate with Sophia on a plane that was flying
nowhere.
All along, I have only been generous with Sophia without
knowing for sure I was the father to the baby she was carrying. On May 14,
2015, Sophia delivered her baby named Imade. It was after Sophia had deliveredthe
baby that DNA testing medically confirmed that I was indeed the biological
father of our child named Imade.
Once this status was obtained, Sophia started to apply
maximum financial demands on me. I bought all the baby things and fully furnished
her apartment. Sophia knew well how to spend money and yet contributed zero to
the vast expenses that I incurred. None in her family contributed even a fake
coin to the cost of having Imade.
Uncle Dele Momodu, now the pompous moralist, never visited
Sophia nor even delivered an ordinary greeting cardto Imade nor to her mum.
Throughout the many months that Sophia stayed at my house when she claimed she
has no family in Lagos, Uncle Dele Momodu and his bossy wife never showed up at
my house to say hello to either of us.
When the going was good, Sophia had told me plenty things
about her uncle Dele Momodu that I need not repeat here. And she never invited
me to go with her to visit him and I don’t have the knowledge that she ever
visited him throughout the time she stayed in my house. She always explained
that a visit to Uncle Dele was needless and unnecessary. Uncle Dele Momodu
never liked, and still does not like Sophia. He is now just grandstanding
because Sophia had a baby for a fairly prominent family and famous Davido.
The case of MrsMomodu baffles me even more. Why did she not
think it necessary to move to Sophia’s apartment to help her out and show her
the tricks of motherhood when Imade was newly born. Not once did she visit
Sophia and her baby until December 2015. She gave neither care, love nor
financial support to Sophia. Now, at 7 months old, and a child with special
medical needs, MrsMomodu rushed to the Lagos Airport to make an awful botch of
her standing as a mother: MrsMomodu certainly not a good person. She put time
and energy to prevent my daughter and I,the real father of Imade, from travelling
aboard to keep an appointment with the American Hospital, Dubai. At the point
of dying in November, 2015Imade had been rushed to this medical facility in
Dubai, where she received helpful and adequate treatment, and was duly returned
to Nigeria, without any side excursions.
What then suddenly propels the fear or dangerous love ofMr&MrsMomodu
for Sophia? I deeply sense this couple never loved Sophia nor her late father.
They also resent her mum, and probably are jealous that Sophia ever became a
mum herself, and thus, wish that Sophia’s daughter who is also my daughter,
must needlessly perish.
Where is the inherent value in a callous human ploy that
directly intends to prevent a child from receiving necessary medical care
aboard once the biological father, DavidAdeleke, the child’s grandfather and
all my siblings who are uncles and aunties to Imadeare booked to fly on this
essential medical trip to which we have attached a restful family vacation?
Sophia ain’t a member of our family, period.
Surely, Sophia was not with Imade when she first visited
Dubai, and yet Imade was promptly returned to Nigeria. And no one said Sophia
cannot come to Dubai except that I declared that I don’t want the trip to seem
like a spousal get-away. Sophia ain’t my wife and I refuse to let any action
conspire to make us look like a couple. She seemed unable or unwilling to pay
her way to Dubai. Also, her boastful Uncle, alas, refused to volunteer to pay
her way to Dubai. I never suggested to an elder what he should take up as his
personal responsibility if indeed he cared at all for Sophia as his robust
involvement in our odd relationship wishes to establish.MrMomodu never bought
the ticket but wanted to enforce his cosine to join my family on this Dubai
trip.
Dangerous lights are furiously blinking red around my
daughter, Sophia and my person. Uncle Dele Momodu and his wife are providers of
the energy espousing the idea of a needless death to my daughter. I now say it
loud and clear, should my daughter die, this strange couple are mainly
responsible. Mr Dele Momodu should just leave me and my family alone! His
daughter is not who had a baby for me, and he has been too much of an absentee
uncle to Sophia to have any traction on the moral authority that commands the
soul and heart of this matter. Sophia Never formally introduced him nor his
wife to me, at anytime. Why are they now crowding my space and that of my
daughter?
Custody, Lifestyle and Imade’s Loss of Wellness
In May, the same
month Imade was born, Sophia settled in her fancy apartment for which I paid a
hefty bill for a 2 year lease. Her baby was healthy. And she seemed happy. I would take care of all the financial needs
of Imade and still pay Sophia a living allowance of 300,000 Naira plus utility
bills.
Within a matter of weeks, Sophia missing and lusting for the
streets of Lagos, especially the glitzy night life. She often left Imade home
for clubbing, binge drinking and a life of debauchery and deviant living. She
would sleep all day and party all night. When awake, she was addicted to the
telephone and cannabis. She paid the baby no attention at all and seem to
despise motherhood and parenting.
Imadewas in her custody for2 straight months, unchallenged
and uninterrupted, until the baby took badly and severely ill in July. Imade
cried, ceaselessly, for 48 hours. She was rushed to the hospital where her
condition confounded medical experts. Several tests were conducted on her and
later on the mother. Medical reports, herein attached(exhibit 1), proved that Sophia’s blood was polluted to the maximum
level with cannabis and she had by the process of breast feeding infected her
child with complicated medical conditions associated with the use of alcohol
and especially cannabis. The trouble spot for Imade was her lungs. She had
difficulty breathing largely because of the contaminated breast milk and the
severity of the “Second Smoke” of
marijuana inhaled by the poor child.
The medical experts at the hospital were enraged by the
callous treatment of Imade by her own mother and declared her unfit for the
caring and the nursing of a delicate baby. The team determined that they would
hand over the baby to the Children’s Welfare Authority of Lagos State
Government. My family started to plead with the hospital management. For the
first time, Sophia too was sober, sorry and contrite. We pleaded that the baby
would be kept from the mother once she was returned to us, and that we would
take over responsibilities for Imade’s welfare.
Voluntarily, Sophia, in the attempt to avoid the handing
over of the baby to the children welfare authority,
agreed to a compromise position that she would transfer Imade to the Adeleke
family until the cannabis in the systems of both mum and daughter was
completely outand comprehensively cleaned out. The medical expert also
indicated that the full damage to Imade’s person could not be ascertained right
away and that her mental state now or in d future could not be determined nor
predicted until perhaps when she would have attained adulthood. This was why
and how Imade was transferred tothe custody of the Adeleke family.
Soonest, Sophia began to make vigorous demands for the brand
new car promised to her by me in May. My father stood out of all this matter
and pointedly told me that although I was very young but I was already making
big income and therefore must learn to be a responsible adult who takes care of
business properly and accordingly. He had instructed since May, that i should
provide the mother of my baby with a car, without delay.
But I have since had a change of mind on this issue because, of Sophia’s night crawling activities and reckless partying at night clubs. Her clubbing rendezvous escalated. In fact, she had gone to a club on Victoria Island and spent 250,000 Naira in one night. Unashamedly,she told the management of the club to slap “Davido” with the bill. I have refused to pay but till date, the club has never let off the harassment of my person for the settlement of this wild bill. I still don’t believe that my obstinacy will finally absorbed from the payment of this reckless charge. This was one of the main reason I put the purchase of the car on hold
But I have since had a change of mind on this issue because, of Sophia’s night crawling activities and reckless partying at night clubs. Her clubbing rendezvous escalated. In fact, she had gone to a club on Victoria Island and spent 250,000 Naira in one night. Unashamedly,she told the management of the club to slap “Davido” with the bill. I have refused to pay but till date, the club has never let off the harassment of my person for the settlement of this wild bill. I still don’t believe that my obstinacy will finally absorbed from the payment of this reckless charge. This was one of the main reason I put the purchase of the car on hold
Meanwhile,Imade was increasingly worse off in wellness and
she had to be flown to the American hospital in Dubai. I wrote a letter of
release authorizing my sister to travel to Dubai with Imade. The hospital saved
Imade who was returned to Nigeria with a medical equipment that had to be used
daily to enable Imadeto gain restful sleep and balanced respiratory rhythm. The
photograph of this equipment is hereby attached.
If Imade had not gone to Dubai, it is fair to say that she
may not be alive today. Still, some people prevented her from keeping a follow-up
appointment at the American Hospital in Dubai.For the silliest possible
reason.My family would not pay for Sophia’s flight ticket and thus Imade would
be disallowed from traveling for the vital purpose of medical conditions that
lend oxygen to her life. Which is more important to Mr Dele Momomdu, the ticket
for his cousin or the overall wellness of Imade? And why can’t this glamorous
uncle buy the ticket for Sophia so that the life of imade is not compromised?
The claim has been made that the aborted trip to Dubia was
to takeImade to America. This is not true.Imade’s Nigerian passport is right
now with the Immigration Office with no American Visa embossed on it and Imade,
though qualified to possess an American Passport because her dad is an American
citizen,still does not possess an American passport. True,her passport is being
processed but the truancy of her mother has caused a major delay. I therefore ask,
how willImade have entered America without a visa on her Nigerian passport? The
great dynamics of lying is that the liar is the first to know that he has told
a lie, and the lies told would certainly demolish his integrity and the peace
of his soul. Uncle Dele Momodu, beware!
So poor in understanding is the cerebral capacity of your
cousin or niece that she cannot even operate the equipment that stabilizes her
child’s lungs despite rigorous training offered to her (Exhibit2).
She is dismally inattentive. But she is a fabulous cannon fodder for all the
frivolities of life. What more can I do for a woman who is not my wife? I am
23. I ain’t ready for marriage or even fatherhood. But I have accepted my
responsibilities as my father raised me to understand life and deal with all
its challenges.
The only reason why some of us are dancing naked in the
market place today is because Sophia’s request to go to Dubai on my ticket was
declined. She is demanding for her new car and a raise of her allowance to one
million naira per month. The sole reason why she’s demanding for the custody of
Imade is to justify the necessity for this delusional one million naira. A
domestic matter that could have been quietly and sensibly settled has been
tossed to the public domain with the brutal consequences to the most innocent
actor in this drama, Imade.
From December 23-28, Sophia lived at my father’s Lekki residence
in peace except for the first one hour when a medication was misapplied by her
and Imade speedily vomited for a fearfully long time. Sophia did not know how
to even bathe her own baby. She brought a friend to stay with her in a
3-bedroom flat with a resident professional nurse and nanny. Overall, her stay
was joyful and in alignment with the thrills of the Christmas holiday season.
On December 29, less than 24hours of leaving my father’s
house, Sophia was at the airport in the company of her uncle and his wife with
malice aforethought and the aim to do maximum damage that would obstruct her
child from traveling aboard to receive necessary and needful medical care. She
was welcome to join us if she had bought her ticket or her uncle had funded her
for the trip.
I offered to buy her
a car and suggested a Toyota brand or Hyundai. She lost her cool and told me
off. She wanted a fancy jeep and preferably, a Mercedes Benz Jeep. I laughed
because she just wanted to be a Lagos Big Girl for nothing. She hardly can cope
with the cheapest car much less the ruinous cost of maintaining a Mercedes Benz
vehicle. In December she received 500,000 naira as her allowance without doing
anything for Imade. Life is not a bed of roses. Neither have I ever promised
Sophia a rose garden. Her spontaneous motions of delusions utterly baffle me!
On her twitter page, she claimed she has recovered Imade
from captivity. But Imade never was in captivity. Sophia certainly knows where
Imade is. And it is where she left her on December 28, at my father’s house.
What is the lie about? Sophia also claimed that she hasn’t seen her daughter in
5 months This cannot be true. Sophie
spent every Sunday with her baby at my father’s house since July 2015 when she
voluntarily transferred Imade to the Adeleke family after the cannabis
incidence. She and her daughter constantly appear on her face book and twitter
pages throughout this period of 5 months. What manner of unreliable and lying
person is Sophia.? The picture of your reconciliation with Imade after
“captivity” that you posted on your twitter page came directly from the photo
shoot that you posed for at my father’s house during your Christmas stay. Why
can’t you ever be affable with truth nor have a relationship with honour?
Uncle Dele Momodu was the first to bring this domestic
matter online and onto the internet. Uncle Dele Momodu ran smack into the
internet highway on December 30 with Video recordings that he dishonestly, immorally
and unlawfully recorded at a government facility and office at the Murtala
Mohammed International Airport, Lagos. Uncle, you are wrong and you are not
doing the right thing. By doing a thing so unlawful over a domestic mater
between a 23-yearold boy and your niece is a bothersome slight that proved your
niece must have learnt her sleazy ways from your own accomplished slap-happy
conduct.
Life is beautiful if we all live in simple ways and do not
engage criminal gadgets to replace integrity and honour. Your worthless videorecordings
has achieved nothing.But exposed your naivety and lack of decorum. Your
recordings cannot alter the fact that I am “Davido” father of Imade and it
cannot force me to be the husband of your cousin. In truth, I don’t know if you
are uncle or cousin to Sophia. The word uncle has lost it esteem since the timethat
sleazebucket took over our land. Still, Uncle Dele Momodu, it is immoral,
unlawful and unethical to clandestinely record anyone, especially friends and
family members. This scandalous act truly got you slaughtered and put a new
slant on your person.
Late evening on December 30, I responded to your vicious
internet publications that attacked me and my family. As you well know, my
response was a slam dunk that hurt you badly and diminished your person. You
perhaps deserved what you got. But my father’s counsel and the love I have for
Imade prompted me to recall the arrow aimed at you. You see, my father raised
me well, and I promptly complied with his advise. I thus deleted all references
to the issue of December 29 at the Airport and apologized to you in particular
along with all my fans. I showed you respect even if u had drunkenly provoked
me.
Instead of reciprocating with love and elderly wisdom, you
sustained your attack of me with even more venom and hatefulness. With all due
respect for my dad, I am compelled to speak to your lies and your simulation of
grand self-importance. I am 23 and you are almost 60. Your cousin has a baby
for me. Rather than bring us together as a family, you wished for glowing
embers to come out of cool cucumber. You know damn well how to grandstand. This
is why you instructed your lawyers to put garbage on the internet in a matter that
should be showcased in the court of law. Uncle, who offended you? Is it Davido,
Sophia or Imade? It cannot be my late mum after whom I named Imade. Is it my
gentle dad? Why have you engaged yourself in a bitter private vendetta with my
family? Uncle, you will have your day in
court. But you will soonest be forced to embrace the fact that the crowning
glory of your puffing and pride rests in your stunning emptiness. Again, I dare
you, publish the garbage in your vanity trunk or perish!.
I am 23 and a performing artiste that God immensely blessed
and I have joyfully made good in the industry. I won’t do this forever, and I
shall timely step aside in the nearest future. I have a degree and I am
stashing my monies aside so that I can build a decent future for Imade plus my
future wife and family. I believe as the bible says, “every good gift is from
above”.
There is nothing better in life than to tell the truth and
pray. May God ever stand by me and deliver to me my dreams and wishes. May He
also deliver to your own children their dreams and desires. Uncle Dele Momodu,
please, please leave me and my family alone even if it is clear, by God’s will,
that you can’t do us a thing. As for me, this is the end of this conversation.
May God lead both of us to the righteous path.I thank you very much, sir.
Source: Linda Ikeji blog
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